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Clay Eals

Good to see your post about "City of New Orleans" and Steve Goodman. He often doesn't get his due. Thought you might be interested in an eight-year project of mine that has come to fruition -- an 800-page biography of Goodman published in May, "Steve Goodman: Facing the Music." The book delves deeply into the background of CONO and the other 100 or so songs that Goodman wrote. Please check my Internet site below for more info. Just trying to spread the word. Feel free to do the same!

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Philip

Thank you for the link, and good luck with your book. The saddest thing about creative artists who pass away too early is that you always wonder what they might have done had they lived a normal life span. Instead of leaving us with a hundred songs, Steve Goodman should still be alive and writing today.

Chisel

Philip,

What a great song. I love it too!

I don't know what made your parents bicker so as they grew older. They lapsed into a bad habit, and bad habits become difficult to break.

Thanks for sharing.

tonya

Aw, this is all so sweet. Whatever happened to Ann(e)? That's so sad about Dan. I love trains too -- especially after 9/11 when I was afraid to fly, I took trains everywhere. It's so peaceful to just sit and look out the window and think... I can't wait to hear about your Jacob's Pillow trip!

Nicole

Philip,
I really enjoy reading your blog on a daily basis. Thanks so much for sharing your intimate thoughts out loud. Great pictures too!

tonya

Oh and I was also going to say, you had curly brown hair!!!!

Philip

Chisel, I am not sure how my parents descended into bickering. My mom developed severe arthritis when she was around 40 years old; I think my dad became frustrated as it became increasingly difficult for her to get around. There were other issues too, but basically I think they ended up being at home alone together too much and got on each other's nerves!

I'm sure you have heard the Judy Collins version of CITY OF NEW ORLEANS which is actually how I learned the song. I didn't hear Goodman's own version til later.

Ann(e) lives in Syracuse with her husband Gary; they adopted three foster children many years ago and are now caring for the twin sons of one of the girls. Ann(e) and I stay in touch from time to time via e-mail but mostly it's just knowing she is there and unchanged that is reassuring. She could never decide whether she was Ann or Anne so she always spelled her name Ann(e).

By the time I learned that Dan had committed suicide I had come out and was living with TJ. I hadn't stopped to think how much more difficult life was for Dan than for me. Because he felt he could never talk about his sexuality with anyone, he kept everything inside until it became unbearable. I always regretted that I did not go back and try to help him once I found my own direction.

tonya

Speaking of Dan -- your friend I mean -- did you read the article in New York magazine this week about all the closeted gay men and how they're dealing with their double lives by hooking up with other guys online? It's really interesting. According to the writer, there are thousands of guys in New York alone who are doing this.

Philip

Apparently this phenomenon of 'gay' men getting married and even having kids while in the meantime hooking up with other men is widespread in China also.

I have to find and read that NY Times article; you would think that here is NYC it would be fairly easy to lead whatever kind of life you were born to. But obviously there are an awful lot of conflicted individuals out there.

Do you think there is a similar phenomenon among the female population?

tonya

I don't know -- that's a really interesting question! I had two cousins who came out long after they were married and had kids. One, already divorced at the time she hooked up with another woman, is bi and could easily go for another man someday -- I think she's just a really sexual person and could be sexual with anyone, but the other was definitely unfulfilled and denying herself something and she hooked up with the other woman before the divorce. It was kind of devastating to her kids and the whole family (small town people; I'm the only one living in the big city), but everyone got over it and everything's fine now, which actually surprises me a bit given my family. It seems like it's more of a complete lifestyle change for a man than a woman for some reason, though I don't know why. It's an interesting question!

Also interesting is why a man in NYC in 2007 would still be in the closet -- and the writer asked the same question. Basically the main guy interviewed seemed to not really know who he was when he got married (at 30) and began having kids. He now (in his 40s) thinks he just hadn't met the right guy back then so thought he was straight. And then when you're in your 40s and you've created a whole life for yourself it's almost impossible to leave it.

Philip

There is one school of thought that relationships between two men are basically sexual, or at least they start out that way, while relationships between two women usually develop from an emotional rather than a sexual bond.

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